I recently had the good fortune of attending a couple of church services in rural communities near Ithaca in order to speak about the work of the Cancer Resource Center.
It reminded me that churches, synagogues, mosques, and other faith communities are often the primary sources of support for people going through cancer.
And, as we know, cancer affects one’s entire family. One church I visited was the Reynoldsville United Methodist Church, just outside of Burdett, NY. I was aware of the church because it was so important to Kristina and her family as she went through several years of treatment for her cancer. The church was just as important when Kristina passed away from the disease just a few weeks ago. You could sense that the congregation was holding the family in its collective arms.
As I often write, what people with cancer want from others is a sense of being present. We don’t expect you to fix our cancers or even to explain our cancers. We simply want you to walk beside us, and to sit beside us, as we go through difficult times.
That’s what faith communities do. It’s putting into practice the motto of the Cancer Resource Center – “no one should face cancer alone.”
Faith itself is important when dealing with cancer or any other serious illness. I’m defining faith here very broadly – it’s a sense of trust and expecting that things will turn out as they should. You can have faith in traditional spiritual beliefs, in your doctors, in the power of nature, or whatever gives you comfort.
There’s so much about the cancer experience that we can’t control. If you have faith, you don’t have to fight so hard to stay in control and you begin to relax.
I hope that every pastor and every congregation recognizes how important they are to their parishioners affected by cancer. By providing community and faith, you provide so much.
Reprinted with permission of the Ithaca Journal.
Original publication date: November 10, 2016
Bob Riter is the Executive Director of the Cancer Resource Center of the Finger Lakes. He can be reached at [email protected]