Prostate cancer: Lessons Learned from My Breast Cancer


June is National Cancer Survivors Month! To honor survivors, we will be sharing stories from folks with cancer and their caregivers. Today we hear from our old friend, Bob.

There aren’t too many people who’ve had both breast cancer and prostate cancer, but I’m one of them.

The breast cancer appeared some 25 years ago. It’s rare in men, but is essentially the same disease in both sexes. My treatment consisted of a mastectomy and several months of chemotherapy. (I began endocrine treatment, but had to stop because of side effects). Although I didn’t know it at the time, my breast cancer was likely associated with a genetic mutation, later identified as CHEK2.

My prostate cancer was diagnosed just a few months ago. In my situation, surgery, radiation and active surveillance were all reasonable options, and I opted for active surveillance. I’ll have regular PSA testing and physical examinations, and I’ll begin treatment if and when my prostate cancer begins to look more aggressive. The CHEK2 mutation likely increased my risk for having prostate cancer, but it’s difficult to know if the mutation actually caused the cancer. Lots of guys my age are diagnosed with prostate cancer.

Notably, living with a breast cancer for the past 25 years taught me to be comfortable with uncertainty. Delaying treatment for the prostate cancer wasn’t a difficult decision for me, but it would have been had it been my first cancer diagnosis.

I’m fortunate in that the landscape of prostate cancer treatment has changed over the past few years. Had I been diagnosed even five to ten years ago, immediate treatment would have been recommended. Prostate cancer is generally a slow-moving cancer, and delaying treatment until it begins to progress does not affect long-term outcomes.

It’s my hope that active surveillance will increasingly be an option for early stage breast cancers as well. Most such cancers aren’t life-threatening, but we can’t always tell which ones will remain indolent and which ones will later become aggressive. There’s no breast cancer biomarker analogous to the prostate specific antigen (or PSA), a simple blood test that serves as an early-warning system for prostate cancer progression. As a result, active surveillance for early breast cancer is now limited mostly to clinical trials. But that will change in the years ahead.

In addition to being comfortable with uncertainty, breast cancer taught me both to seek information and to listen to my gut. Second opinions are essential, especially with prostate cancer, because there often isn’t a clear best treatment for you. But, after the information has been gathered, it’s important to listen to your instincts. Cancer treatment is generally a long-term relationship. Do you feel a certain connection with one physician? Will making one decision over another make you sleep better at night? Your gut is trying to tell you something.

Finally, breast cancer taught me to seek connection. For the past ten years, I’ve had breakfast every Friday with guys who have all types of cancer. (We met virtually during COVID and are just beginning to meet again in person). Surprisingly, we don’t even talk about cancer most of the time. We share jokes, check in on one another, and regularly welcome newcomers when they have that “deer in the headlights” expression that comes with an initial cancer diagnosis. Cancer is never easy, but it’s easier when you’re part of a community.


Bob is a Patient Advocate with The Cornell University Physical Sciences Oncology Center. He is a long-time OncoLink blogger and the former Executive Director of the Cancer Resource Center of the Finger Lakes, an organization providing support, information, and community to people affected by cancer in and around Ithaca, NY. Bob’s involvement with cancer support and education began in 1996 when he was diagnosed with breast cancer. A native of Huntington, WV, Bob received his undergraduate degree from Oberlin College and a master’s degree in health services administration from the University of Michigan.

7 thoughts on “Prostate cancer: Lessons Learned from My Breast Cancer

    1. It is so true Harvey, everyone’s experience is different. Many people who haven’t been there don’t understand this. The story your neighbor shares about their uncle John who had some kind of cancer and some treatment isn’t helpful to you 😉 But I do think sharing our stories is a way to help others and normalize the situation people are facing.

  1. I have been treated for pleural mesothelioma of the left lung area. I had chemotherapy and very radical surgery at Mermorial Sloan Kettering then six weeks of radiation at Sloan. I was very sick during the radiation. I know have radiation fibrosis. It has destroyed my lung and now has created a large lump near the scar. I am going to physical therapy three times a week and a massage therapist once a week. I am told if my shoulder joint hardens it won’t get better. It is all very scary. Does anyone have any suggestions to stop the fibrosis? Kathey

  2. Hi Kathey, I am so sorry that you are going through so much. It may be helpful to see a cancer rehabilitation physician (called a physiatrist). if you aren’t already. MSK has a physiatry program. Massage and PT exercises are both good for helping you maintain the function of that arm. Unfortunately, fibrosis tends to continue to progress over many years so you should continue doing the exercises even if you stop PT. And don’t hesitate to let the rehab team know about any symptoms you have along with this such as pain, muscle spasms, or a decrease in the way you can move. And don’t be afraid to join a support group or see a therapist to help you cope- you are going through a lot and it is ok to ask for help. The MARF site has some good recommendations – https://www.curemeso.org/mesothelioma-treatment-plan/patient-support-and-resources/mesothelioma-support-groups-for-patients-caregivers-bereaved/ Hang in there – we are sending well wishes.

  3. Sorry for posting here, but I haven’t find an email address to which to address.
    The question is if in prostate cancer quite advanced (Gleason 8) with the prostate right capsule is broken (this meaning the tumor is already outside the prostate, still localized) and consequently which will be treated by radiotherapy, is the usage of a rectal balloon permitted?
    I have already heard two opposite opinions, but the doctors who prepare the simulation assured about the positive usage of such a balloon. Can I have your opinion?
    Thanks

    1. We aren’t able to provide you with a medical opinion—but would encourage you strongly to continue communications with your oncologist(s) and come up with a plan that you are happy with for your treatment.

    2. Irena, I will add that the purpose of the balloon is two-fold- to protect the rectum from radiation and to reduce the movement of the prostate during treatment so that the treatment more accurately hits just the target area. Hope that helps.

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